This year,our household is going through many changes. I am starting work 3 times a work. It was totally unexpected and so most of the days between Christmas and New Year and the two weeks after that,I looking for a daycare center for my precious. After many disappointments, I finally found a daycare, close to home and they had the days I wanted as well. So, we put Nanya’s name down there and scheduled orientations etc. First Orientation was last Tuesday,when I had to stay with her.She was so overwhelmed looking at all the kids and clung to me for dear life.
Two days later,they told me to drop her off at lunch time for an hour or so..That was also the day Aadi was starting school..my baby starting Grade 2! Needless to say,I was an emotional wreck the previous day and could barely sleep the whole night.So,we dropped Aadya at school and then dropped Ananya at the daycare and SD and I went out for a coffee.Our first kid-free date in a long long time..We went and picked up Ananya after an hour and she was a little upset.She hadn’t eaten anything,not had anything to drink..Gosh it broke my heart.
The next day was the real deal,but I think I had managed to rub off my anxiety to the girls.They both kept waking up in the middle of the night..Anyway,Friday morning was here,SD went to drop off Aadi while I got Nanya ready and then SD dropped us both,first Anan at the daycare,then me at work.I had a very busy morning and didn’t get around to calling the daycare to check on Nanya..in a way it was good,because they told us later,she cried a little after I left. When I went to pick her up,she saw me and burst into tears,cuddling me and crying in the crook of my neck,telling me,”Mumma Nanya crying,where Nanya mummy”…It broke my heart into a thousand pieces..We clung to each other for the rest of the day.She slept with me and cried for mummy through out the night.
Now, we have rinse and repeat the whole thing again on Tuesday …I know she’ll settle there, the center is really good, the educators(as they are called now) are really nice..just a matter of time for her to settle down:)
As for me,I am still coming to terms with leaving my baby with someone other than her parents ..And I am trying to be better organized with our meals..eating out once a week is fine,but eating out three times a week is a bit too much. So,I will be posting some new recipes,some gyaan on frugal living,in the days to come..as I get more organized.
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That’s Ananya. She told me off for yelling at her sister and I blogged about it,here
The next day,I had a particularly difficult day with Aadya,talking back to me,just being rude and I lost it,completely.I went ballistic,yelling at her..telling her how she was hurting me with her behavior and how upset I was. She ran into her room angry and crying. Anan was playing with something,as soon as she saw Aadya running and crying,she dropped her toys and started crying too.SD and I tried to calm her,but she refused to let us console her.She just kept pushing us away and kept screaming.
By now,Aadi had come out of her room,to argue again.So,here we are arguing-Aadi&I,when I heard a growl and saw something blue from the corner of my eye.It was Ananya,she came charging at me,with her ball,tears streaming down her face,grunting with anger,”No Aadu shouting,you naughty mumma”..And then to Aadi,”Come on,Aadu” and they walked away hand-in-hand,to their room and sat there comforting each other.
I wasn’t wrong in telling-off Aadya,but in that moment,by her little gesture,Ananya made me feel like the worst mum on the face of this earth,but I also realised that I must be doing something right,for them to reach out for each other,for them to stand up for each other.
The number of times that Aadi says,”ugghhh I hate it when Nanya touches my things””or”Why does she copy me?” or “I wish I didn’t have a little sister”…B.U.T. she is the first one to rush to Nanya’s side,when she is crying or upset.Time-outs are pointless in our house,because the other sister always follows the naughty one,to the naughty corner!
That day SD and I looked at each other,the way only parents can,in awe of and proud of their kids.
We eavesdropped on them,while the girls were in their room and Nanya was rubbing Aadi’s back. saying,”No crying Aadu,all fine all fine” and Aadi was wiping Nanya’s tears,saying”Its Ok Nanya,I am not mad at you..didi is here with you” and there were some unprompted I-love-yous too..:)
As I sit here typing this,they are rough-housing on our makeshift bed in the lounge-room..fighting over the same toys and then giggling at something only they know.
And this is why,I wanted a SISTER for Aadya..:) -
So much for wanting to write everyday ..:)
SD is at home and hogs my laptop..when he isn’t Aadi wants to draw pictures on paintbrush! She is really good at drawing those Powerpuff Girls and I don’t have the heart to say no!
See?I told you! How can I say no to such talent??
Anyway,with all this,I have very little screen time.
This week is a scorcher,here in Melbourne. We are used to an odd hot day or two,but almost always by night it rains and all is well again.But this week,the temperatures are in late 30s and 40s for all the 5 days and there will be some respite on Saturday,with a low 33deg..Fun!NOT!
Ideally,I shouldn’t be complaining,because I am not stepping out of the house. We stayed in all of Monday and Tuesday.Today,only SD has gone out to get some fruit and ice-cream,we are still at home,cooling off in the airconditioned lounge room,which is currently also our bedroom.We have only one aircon and its in the living room,so,bringing the mattresses was the only way to cope with the heat.
This Meme is doing the rounds on facebook and I can’t help but share it here..
I’ll stop here now and schedule some posts,now that I have the laptop in my control 😀
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Yesterday,we went to the park with Aadi’s friend Anie and her mum K and little brother A.Anie & her mum were one of the first few friends little Aadi and I made in Melbourne. Then both K and I fell pregnant with our second babies at the same time and we had two more monkeys join the group 🙂
Anie asked if she could go in our car and it was so cute to hear the girls talk in the backseat. They shared secrets,talked about what they did in the holidays,compared notes on their siblings ..awww.. perfect recipe to turn mum into mush 😀
And then they started reminiscing about how they have know each other for the longest time..One said,”You are my first friend” and the other said,”And you are mine,we were so so so little when we met”After a play-and-picnic at the park,the girls asked if they could have a play-date at home and Anie came home with us.The girls kept talking non-stop-it helps that they like the same things and have same aged siblings..K sent me a collage of pics from yesterday and I thought I’d share it here…
And some of Ms.Nanya
This was Nanya’s favorite place..She climbed up the lookout,looked through the binoculars and then went down the slide,every single time 😀
And all the playing made her so tired,she decided to lie down on the coffee table,after waking up from her nap 😛
I just missed out on some pics of K’s little boy,but with two toddlers,we split up watching them…
We are meeting them again tomorrow and Aadi has already laid out her clothes everything for tomorrow 🙂
