15 Marbles

Yes!That was the first thought that came to my mind this morning 😀
So,Ms.Nanya is taking a nap..Good time to start writing 🙂
We are getting used to our new routines.. I know I know you must be thinking,if I am ever going to stop talking about the new routine..but please bear with me..work,daycare etc is still new and so on my mind..Nanya still cries a lot at both pick up and drop off and she still refuses to eat. Atleast I have made my peace with the no eating bit. I give her some breakfast and big cup of milk,before leaving.And they give her a bottle before nap time,and then she eats a snack or two or three(!!) and dinner when she gets back home.
I don’t know how some of you work all 5 days.The last time I worked 5 days a week was before kids..many many years ago..and I didn’t have kids or didn’t have to worry about cooking and cleaning.So yeah..I am exhausted!
Nanya wants her family close to her,since starting daycare..no-one is allowed to leave her/home.This morning,we had a big meltdown at school drop-off.She didn’t want Didi to go-(s)chool and cried her little eyes out. Didi on the other hand is completely clueless and doesn’t know how to react to this.
Almost time for school pick up..I leave you with a pic on Nanya and her bestie- girl band!

This year,our household is going through many changes. I am starting work 3 times a work. It was totally unexpected and so most of the days between Christmas and New Year and the two weeks after that,I looking for a daycare center for my precious. After many disappointments, I finally found a daycare, close to home and they had the days I wanted as well. So, we put Nanya’s name down there and scheduled  orientations etc. First Orientation was last Tuesday,when I had to stay with her.She was so overwhelmed looking at all the kids and clung to me for dear life.
Two days later,they told me to drop her off at lunch time for an hour or so..That was also the day Aadi was starting school..my baby starting Grade 2! Needless to say,I was an emotional wreck the previous day and could barely sleep the whole night.So,we dropped Aadya at school and then dropped Ananya at the daycare and SD and I went out for a coffee.Our first kid-free date in a long long time..We went and picked up Ananya after an hour and she was a little upset.She hadn’t eaten anything,not had anything to drink..Gosh it broke my heart.
The next day was the real deal,but I think I had managed to rub off my anxiety to the girls.They both kept waking up in the middle of the night..Anyway,Friday morning was here,SD went to drop off Aadi while I got Nanya ready and then SD dropped us both,first Anan at the daycare,then me at work.I had a very busy morning and didn’t get around to calling the daycare to check on Nanya..in a way it was good,because they told us later,she cried a little after I left. When I went to pick her up,she saw me and burst into tears,cuddling me and crying in the crook of my neck,telling me,”Mumma Nanya crying,where Nanya mummy”…It broke my heart into a thousand pieces..We clung to each other for the rest of the day.She slept with me and cried for mummy through out the night.
Now, we have rinse and repeat the whole thing again on Tuesday …I know she’ll settle there, the center is really good, the educators(as they are called now) are really nice..just a matter of time for her to settle down:)
As for me,I am still coming to terms with leaving my baby with someone other than her parents ..And I am trying to be better organized with our meals..eating out once a week is fine,but eating out three times a week is a bit too much. So,I will be posting some new recipes,some gyaan on frugal living,in the days to come..as I get more organized.

That’s Ananya. She told me off for yelling at her sister and I blogged about it,here
The next day,I had a particularly difficult day with Aadya,talking back to me,just being rude and I lost it,completely.I went ballistic,yelling at her..telling her how she was hurting me with her behavior and how upset I was. She ran into her room angry and crying. Anan was playing with something,as soon as she saw Aadya running and crying,she dropped her toys and started crying too.SD and I tried to calm her,but she refused to let us console her.She just kept pushing us away and kept screaming.
By now,Aadi had come out of her room,to argue again.So,here we are arguing-Aadi&I,when I heard a growl and saw something blue from the corner of my eye.It was Ananya,she came charging at me,with her ball,tears streaming down her face,grunting with anger,”No Aadu shouting,you naughty mumma”..And then to Aadi,”Come on,Aadu” and they walked away hand-in-hand,to their room and sat there comforting each other.
I wasn’t wrong in telling-off Aadya,but in that moment,by her little gesture,Ananya made me feel like the worst mum on the face of this earth,but I also realised that I must be doing something right,for them to reach out for each other,for them to stand up for each other.
The number of times that Aadi says,”ugghhh I hate it when Nanya touches my things””or”Why does she copy me?” or “I wish I didn’t have a little sister”…B.U.T. she is the first one to rush to Nanya’s side,when she is crying or upset.Time-outs are pointless in our house,because the other sister always follows the naughty one,to the naughty corner!
That day SD and I looked at each other,the way only parents can,in awe of and proud of their kids.
We eavesdropped on them,while the girls were in their room and Nanya was rubbing Aadi’s back. saying,”No crying Aadu,all fine all fine” and Aadi was wiping Nanya’s tears,saying”Its Ok Nanya,I am not mad at you..didi is here with you” and there were some unprompted I-love-yous too..:)
As I sit here typing this,they are rough-housing on our makeshift bed in the lounge-room..fighting over the same toys and then giggling at something only they know.
And this is why,I wanted a SISTER for Aadya..:)