When you find your child eating a spoonful of dinner and then going to the bathroom to spit it in the toilet?
I am so angered and shocked by this discovery that I can’t even think straight.Aadi didn’t eat her dinner today.It was a hot day and I didn’t force her.I gave her some cold milk instead.When I was winding up the kitchen,for the night..she saw the leftovers and asked for her dinner.By then,it had cooled down a bit and so,I thought may be she wanted to eat.I served her a little veg pulav .She ate a few spoonfuls and then said I am done.I coaxed her a little more.I had served her less than a quarter cup of rice.Surely,she could finish that.She was dancing around,I coaxed her some more,threatened to not talk,she opened her mouth took a big bite and then ran away.I didn’t pay attention,thinking she is playing and will come back for the next bite,which she did.
Normally,I don’t encourage her playing/walking around while eating.She sits on the chair and eats her meals at the table.But today,I was also tired,so didn’t pay attention.Two mins later,DH called me to show the food that she had spit in the toilet!
I was so sad.I am so sad.Is that all my child values food for?We have told her about us being lucky to get food.That its a gift from her beloved “Jai-Jai Bappa”[GOD] and she says yes everytime.Does she even understand it?Or is it that she is trying to please me at no matter what the cost?It saddens me to think that I pressurised her to think and behave so slyly.
Anway,naturally she got a time-out.We told her to sit in her room and think about all the poor kids who didn’t have anything to eat.And when she understood how sad they were,she was to go and say sorry to Jai-Jai Bappa ,for insulting the food he blessed us with..and then say sorry to papa-mamma for wasting the food they worked so hard for.
She came out crying after 2 minutes,I think more because of the punishment,but she went and said sorry for Jai-Jai Bappa and her dad and me.Which makes me wonder again…did she understand anything or is she just aiming to please.
I was still annoyed at bed-time and yelled at her,which made her cry..which made me angry..When we asked her to stop crying/screaming,she ACTUALLY screamed loudly!Defiance??I don’t know..but I don’t want to be the reason,my sweet child turns into a defiant brat.I don’t want her to grow up,thinking that she is good for nothing or not cared for..or that she would be loved only till she kept us happy…BECAUSE,thats so not true.I don’t want her to change..to change to please someone else.
She is sleeping next to me and my heart is breaking into a thousand pieces.Starting tomorrow,I will try to control my temper..I really will.
Edited to add- after she appologised,I sat Aadi on my lap and explained that Daddy worked very hard in the office to get money so that we can buy food.Mumma works very hard in the kitchen,to cook..so that she can eat it.And it makes us very sad when she wastes food like that.She nodded,hugged us and said,she wont do it again..I dunno..what to think!…. Sad 😦
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Today in craft hour,I revived a childhood memory.
I was crazy about my dolls and loved dressing them up.Mom never tired of sewing little clothes for the dolls.
One summery afternoon,mom told me,that we were going to get dolly ready for party.She gathered all her craft supplies and we got to working.
Today was one such day..only,I am no longer a little girl..I am the mom to one.So,we spread out the craft table-cloth,got all the craft supplies and got to work.At the end of craft hour,this is what we had to show-
Barbie Ready for Ball,in her new Skirt.
A pinwheel
And a crown for the Teddy Bear.
Here’s what we did-To dress up the doll- first make the base skirt with card stock or chart paper..any stiff paper.Staple it in the back.Then,Cut strips of crepe paper in red and blue(or any colors of your choice).Starting from the base,start sticking the strips to form layers of the skirt.Dress up the top with straps or a sash. And then,stick some beads of glitter to the skirt,to jazz it up.
For the pinwheel- Take a rectangular piece of paper,the size of a tissue paper.Fold it like a fan.Take a skewer and stick the two corners on one end to the skewer.Open up the fan on both sides and stick the other two corners to each other.
For the crown- Use any scrap paper..even the community newspaper.Measure it around the child’s head,leaving space on the back for ties.Paint it in a color of your choice.If you do not wish to color it,use a colored paper instead.Let the paint dry and decorate the crown as you like.Punch holes on either side and thread a string in each hole.
If you have any questions about any of these projects,feel free to leave a comment with your email and I will get back to you.
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I had the most unproductive day today..and just as I was starting to feel guilty,I decided,it was Ok to stop,one day..to do just nothing.
I went through the pictures on my laptop and found this picture of tulips.My daughter was around 3 months old,when this picture was taken..I was suddenly filled with so much joy and energy..May be tomorrow will be a better day!
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Its the Valentine month. So,we made some cards. Aadi chose the paper and I cut out hearts from them.Aadya loves stickers and this was the first time she handled glue and she was so excited.She did confuse it with paint at first,painting being her first love and all.Then,I showed her that she can stick with it and then she was on the roll..She was pasting hearts so fast,getting impatient with me,for cutting it slow.
The thing about being a pre-schooler is tha they find even trash,interesting.She loved even the windows that were left after the hearts were cut..looking at them in awe,saying Woww with each window that I kept aside..
And after we finished making cards for mummy and daddy,she insisted on making one each for Friend S and her hubby too.
Here’s what we came up with-
We used readymade cards and hand made paper from the scrapbooking aisle of the reject shop.I just cut hearts and she pasted them,as she liked.
She is enjoying these craft sessions more and more.This will be our entry for this contest.
Edited to add- Can someone tell me how I can upload an audio file here?I tried but,it didn’t happen.
