Its a 3 -day weekend this time and two days are already over.Where did the time go?
Today was quite eventful..DH and Aadi had a fight,LOL..yes,it seems funny to me,even as I read this..but,they had a fight and then,she ended up crying and then,I yelled at him and then,we ended up fighting.
This is the same thing that happenned last night.Somehow,everytime,I leave them alone..something happens and I hear her crying.It irritates me.I get mad at DH.My point is why does she cry,everytime I leave them alone.He gets mad at me,saying,I interfere when he is trying to discipline her.I dunno whats right or wrong.I just dont want her to be defiant and him to be angry.Sometimes its so difficult.
I know she cries easily,when he scolds her or even gives her a smack.I can yell at her all day,and she wouldn’t care..if she is being a brat,I plant a smack on her bottom or sometimes even give her a slap(and hate myself for it) but she doesn’t care.She gets upset and tells me so.But,when he does the same thing,she cries and screams.
He says,she does that because,she knows,I will come to her rescue..I ask him,why should he have to scold her in the first 2 mins that I am away..ALWAYS! If she is say,playing with the phone,I tell her no,if she still continues,I tell her,I will take it away,and then,take it away.She is prepared for the outcome.She protests..but settles.
His approach is- “Don’t touch the phone”,take it from her hand..and she screams her lungs out! She thrashes,he has to swat her legs/hands to make her stop,she screams more! I am tired of these ‘fights’ between the two of them..It upsets me..I sit there,feeling horrible about the whole thing and they are thick as thieves in a few minutes!I dunno what is the right approach.I have tried to make him understand..I have tried to make her listen..and now I dunno what to do.
DH is a great dad..he plays with her,takes care of her,brings her favorite treat every now and then..but he has an old school approach about discipline..or may be its because thats what he has seen,all his life.It was expected that he listen to his parents,as soon as the first word was said..My parents were the same too..atleast my mom was..it was expected that as soon as you are called,you answer and appear,but things are different now..this generation is so much more evolved..they have more distractions-the TV,the cellphones,the iPhones..My 3 year old plays games on the iPhone..its her father’s doing..my frowning,didn’t help.Now,she demands the iPhone,as soon as DH steps in..and if he is expecting a call or email,she throws a tantrum..Now,who should I blame?The adult who got her hooked or the child,who is behaving her age?
When I found out I was pregnant,I was at the doctor’s office.The doctor went out and the nurse came in started asking me questions..there were a thousand questions that she had to ask me..and my mind was swirling with thoughts.The whole thing was surreal..and I said to the nurse,”wow all this is too overwhelming..I can’t believe it that I am going to be a mom”..and you know what she said?She said,”Oh!getting pregnant is the easy bit..Now,starts the tough part..”And I didn’t believe her..I had waited long enough to get pregnant..and from then on everything was going to be easy..but no…Parenting is not easy..Its the one job,where you are always,second guessing yourself..sigh..I hope I can find a way,to either solve this problem or learn how to not interfere!
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Ugh!!Why does WP hate me???
I have been trying to post for the last 2 hours..finally managed to post on the other blog.And today is the worse..my posts keep disappearing!
LOL!
so,I cheated..and published a one-liner at 12!
Now for the post..hope it works this time.
It was a nice day.We went out shopping..grocery,essentials and the likes.Last month,I experimented with my budgetting.I had tried weekly grocery shopping,bi-weekly grocery shopping and so,last month,every time I ran out of something,instead of running to the stores to buy it,I put it on a list.
On another list,I put down the things,that I was going to need during the month-grocery,cleaning supplies,craft supplies,cleaning supplies,other essentials..everything. So,on pay day,we hit the shops,armed with these lists and a pen.
I was buying veggies on biweekly basis earlier ..this time,I just bought everything together.And guess what it was much much economic.I have realised,everytime,we pop into a shop to pick up one thing,we end up buying more than one thing.On an average,we end up spending,anywhere from 10-30 dollars.This way,we just plan and buy in advance. And when my pantry is already well stocked,I don’t need to go in for one or two things..and thus,save time and energy and ofcourse,MONEY!
I have found a nice farm fresh shop and everytime,I buy fruits and veggies from there,they last longer.Today I found a nice big cabbage for $1.49. I know,we are not going to use so much in one go.So,I cut it into portions.And cling wrap it.And when I am doing this,I chop half of it into shreds and freeze it.This way,when I am short of time,I have chopped vegetables ready.
Everytime,I chop vegetables for noodles or pasta,I cut extra and freeze the extra portions.
I do the same thing with meat as well..buying in bulk is more economic and more value for money.We don’t eat a lot of non-veg,just about 2-3 times in a month..so,I just clean the chicken/fish,smear some salt and turmeric and divide into portions and freeze.
When buying pantry staples like pasta,I prefer home brands like Coles-they taste good and cost less:)
I have tried shopping after planning a menu,and that worked for a while.But,I am more of a spontaneous cook and even if I have planned the menu myself,I might feel like making something else..so this works wayy better for me.But,more than anything else,I love how I am able to stretch the dollar.
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Here’s presenting a hottie,for Ms.Aadya(she insisted on modelling it herself)
The pattern is courtesy a pattern giveaway that Nima hosted.When I first read about Nima’s pattern giveaway,I was tempted..I love her blog and her FOs and being able to make something that she has done,would be like WOW!! But,when she announced it,it was a crazy busy time for me and I didn’t ask her for the pattern,simply because,I wasn’t sure if I would be able to finish any project,big or small,in the time frame.So,I just lurked on her blog,to see the beautiful hat pincushions that the others had crafted.Until,the day,that Ms.Aadya caught me lurking..and asked for the same hottie..Hottie is Aadyaspeak for hat.I think it came from hat+hoodie:)
So I emailed Nima for the pattern and this is what I came up with:)
I used a multicolored 8ply Anchor cotton yarn for the top and for the brim,I used a plain blue 8ply Anchor cotton yarn.Since the yarn itself is so beautiful,I didn’t use any embellishments.Then,Ms.Aadya,wanted me to put the orange flower on it..so,I did:) But I like it without the flower too.See:
What do you think? Do check out Nima’s blog for her beautiful Finished Objects:)Edited to add: After I wrote this post,I sent the link to Nima and asked her,why my hat,was looking short..and she asked me to check something in the pattern..and guess what,I had skipped 5 whole rows!So naturally it was short.I ripped it off and worked in those 5 rows and I loveeeeeeeee the new finish.
See the difference:
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Its a rainy day and it was also school day.But,I kept Aadi home.I think the medicine is too strong for her.Last time she had the ear-infection,the doctor gave her a 125mg in 300mL suspension of amoxicillin,to be finished in 15 days.
This time,the infection is back with a vengence..and she is on Edited:250mg in 300mL suspension to be finished in 7 days.She is drowsy,cranky,tired,her legs hurt..and her appetite is gone for a toss.And I am just giving it to her two times a day,instead of three…its ok..I will stretch it to 10 days.
So,anyway..I kept her home today and one of my school mom friends called up,to see why we were late,and if I needed a ride.The bus that I take to school runs every 30 minutes and so if I miss my bus,and take the next one,I will get there half an hour after the school has started.So,anyway,I told her,about Aadi being sick..and she asked me,if she could pop over for a bit.I said OK.
Guess what,she popped over after some time and brought us a box of Chole(chickpea curry).I was soo touched.I have known her only a few months..and it was nice gesture.I just made some rice and we had lunch.Her short visit cheered us,both up.
Another time,when I lost my wallet,friend S,turned up with a bunch of flowers and that cheered me up..Isn’t it amazing how the smallest of gestures can make us smile and brighten our mood,considerably?
And yesterday,Swaram added me on IM..and I saw her online and I was sooo excited,as if she is sitting right infront of me,in my living room!!hehehe..
What makes you smile??Do tell..:)
And have you left a comment on my Li’l birdie Giveway post?? Click on the cute birdies pic on the sidebar to leave a comment..and if you like,grab the code and put the widget on your sidebar.
