Helloo you lovely people!
Yes,we are back. No,No,I didn’t stop NaBloPoMo..My laptop crashed..:(
I woke up on saturday morning and it wouldn’t turn on! We DH tried rebooting Windows,but nothing happenned.And as you know,I spent the next 4 days,disconnected from the world. That’s the trouble when your virtual life is more interesting than your real one!
Anyway,I got a early birthday gift- A Brand New Laptop..:) And I couldn’t be happier.
Incidentally,10 years ago,on this day,DH and I got together and sort of starting going steady..So,yayyy 10 years of being with each other..and we haven’t killed each other..so,thats good.
Seriously,there are days,when I feel I could kill him(I am sure he has more of those days)-but the days,when I think myself,the luckiest woman on this earth..are wayyyyyyyy more than those days.Really-its the smallest of gestures-that make him so special.Take yesterday, for instance.I was sitting on the couch reading.I got up,once or twice to adjust my position and get more comfortable.Without me asking him,he got up and got me a pillow to put behind my back.Seriously,I would have never thought of it,if it were him,fidgetting.
And like this saturday,when he came back from his game-starving-I said,I was craving homemade chicken burgers,the Al-Kabeer kind,he drove around town for nearly one hour- we went to 3 shops..but didn’t find any.Finally,we ordered take-out from a place of my liking and a menu of my choice. I swear,if he made me go around town on a hungry stomach,he would never hear the end of it!!
So,yeah..Happy Anniversary to us..And DH,I am so glad-you popped the question..that day!Love you,always.
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I don’t know,if you remember,but I said,sometime in January that I was going to start taking driving lessons.Well,I did. 🙂 I see my instructor once a week and am getting comfortable with her.I am at a good pace of learning with her.But,the thing is I want to get my licence real soon.I don’t want to wait 6 months for it.At this pace,I will get a licence,eventually..:)
So,she asked me to practice with DH.That’s where my first problem arose.I am learning to drive with her in small hatchback.But,DH’s car is a big SUV. They say,it shouldn’t matter..but darlings,size does matter,when you are learning. The first day,I went out with DH for a drive,I was so nervous..by the enormity of the vehicle,the idea of driving and controlling a car,all by myself..I forgot to forgot to put my seat belt on.Ack!There was the first mistake and DH’s first caustic comment.I put on the seat belt and then forgot to put the car in put the car in D mode! Yeah,so you get it..bad start..:( Anyway,I insisted on driving..and had to hear DH’s comments about how my basics were not clear and how I was driving almost in the opposite lane,which I was. But,I loved it. I drove all the way back as well.And when we came back,I cried..in frustration. We talked and decided to give a try again,after my next lesson.
I did well,when I was driving with my instructor.I got loads of pointers from her and tried again with DH.Again,I was having judgement issues. But,I was able to relax towards the end of the drive.In DH’s words-then,I looked like someone who was enjoying a drive,and not someone who was going to the war!
On my next lesson with the instructor,I went on the highway and touched 70km/hr..wowow that was amazing.And now,I have a better grasp and control of the car.The instructor had to use her breaks or accelator only twice.I was excited and very confident.
I couldn’t have a lesson,this week..because of school timings and all..so,DH and I went for a drive. Today,I got two honks.After the first I panicked and pulled over at the side,without indicating-only to hear another honk.I had pulled over in the drive way of the next car behind me.I moved ahead..and pulled over again..asked DH to drive.
No,he insisted,its ok..its their job to honk and yours to be strong and drive on..Gosh!I never loved him more.I finished the rest of the drive without any mistakes,except at the end-I parked the car and forgot to put the car in Parking mode..and so,despite the hand break being on,it still didn’t stop moving.UGH!!I feel horrible..and low in confidence..but,I have to get over it. I will get there..I will!!If only I felt the same confidence,driving the SUV,as I did when driving with my instructor..I think the fact that she has an extra pair of controls,makes me feel safe..even if I am doing all the driving n controlling.
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Ms.Aadya has always been a light sleeper.Even when she was a baby,she would take mini-power naps and wake up fresh.But,her bedtime has been my most troubled time of the day,since we moved to melbourne.Trust me,in the last 2 and half years that we have lived here,I have tried so many things and given up.I have ranted a lot about this. I have been frustrated,she is irritated and scared and dilly dallies more,making me angrier..Its a vicious circle.I read up about this-got books,googled etc.
Most sources suggested putting her to bed and leaving the room. I tried that and she just cried and cried and cried-breaking our hearts.Next I tried putting her to bed and staying in the room,reading or working on the laptop;that didn’t work either.She just took even longer to sleep. I cut down her afternoon naps and then she was falling asleep at 7.00pm and waking up fresh in an hour. I even tried letting her stay up till she couldn’t any more..And she would happily stay up till even after midnight if we let her. There was no escaping the screaming and tears,really it was irritating and frustrating.
Then,two nights back,she didn’t fall asleep till midnight,despite being in bed since 10:00 pm.That was the last straw.We were both super cranky next morning and I just had to give it another go. So,I let her stay up all day.No naps.TV time was restricted to 2 hours v/s 4-5 and no TV after lunch.I don’t like her watching too much TV,but I have been sick and TV is the most convenient baby sitter. So,I was saying,restricted TV time.After lunch,we just read,did puzzles,or just pretend played and rested.I finished cooking in the afternoon,as against evenings and so,we could go out to the park or for a walk,in the evening.
After we returned from the walk,she would have her shower and then we’d finish dinner,play some and start the bed-time routine and be in bed between 8:15-8:30. This is where I brought in the major change.Instead of sitting with my book or laptop,I turned off all the lights and cuddled with her,told her a story without a book,cuddled some more and the poor thing was out in 10-15 minutes.And I can’t tell you,how much relaxed I am after getting some me-time.And more importantly,she is well rested in the morning and so much happier.
This proves to me yet again that parenting is all instinct..what may work for 10 others,may not necessarily work for you.Its upto you,as a parent to find the right thing for you and your child.So,far I have only tried this for two nights,but,I know we have got a breakthrough in our bedtime problem.
In other news,today was the second day at Kinder and it was alright too.Aadya came home and rattled off a few names and also,told me that one of the little girls played with her.:)
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Yesterday,8th February was Aadya’s first day of Kindergarten.She spent the whole week before that counting days and nights till the first day of school. On the previous night,we picked out her clothes,shoes,socks everything,packed her school bag and went to bed.I thought I’d let her sleep in a little,since,we didn’t have to leave till 1.00. But,no,she was too excited to sleep in.She was up at 8:30am and the first thing,she said was, “Good Morning Mumma!Is it my first day of school?” all said in one breath. There was no way she could sleep anymore.All she wanted to do was get ready and go to school.I gave her a list of tasks to finish before getting ready- Brush,breakfast,toilet,shower etc. And she finished them all in record time. “Can I get ready now?”,she asked again! Then,I made her bring the clock out and showed her the time,when she could get ready.Somehow,it was 1 o’clock and despite the pre-planning,she changed her clothes twice.She wanted to take some crackers,yogurt and carrot sticks for lunch. The lunch was packed and we were off.
We reached the school 10 minutes early and that seemed like forever to her.Finally,the teacher opened the door and Ms.Aadya was the first one in.Before I had even signed her in,she got busy in home corner. Her teacher led her to the mat,where they were going to have introductions. They had puzzles laid out and she settled down happily with one.I went to kiss her g’bye and she remembered she wanted to go to toilet.So,I took her to toilet and gave her another kiss and left.
Before we left from home,DH sent me a message saying all the best and don’t cry.This time,it was easier to leave her .. may be because she seemed happy there.And I guess,her being in daycare had prepared her for being away from me.
When I went to pick her up,she was tired but still excited.I asked her how her day was and did she have a nice time.And she replied yes to both.When I asked if she made any new friends,she replied ” no one came to the home corner,so I played by myself.”I guess,that will change in time.I am not so worried about her making friends,because I know,eventually she will.The only thing I am worried about is,her being the youngest in class.Some of the kids are nearly 5 or even older and here,my little baby is not even 4.Oh,well!I am not going to worry about it now..but,yes!I am going to keep an eye out to see how she is coping.
Thanks for all the good wishes:)
