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  • Trying to conceive

    This is an article that I wrote on Helium.I was thinking of writing about this for a long time..and when I wrote this article on Helium,I decided to post it here as well.To view my Helium profile,go Here

    Here goes-
    Trying to conceive-Irregular cycles.

    So,you are happy together and are ready to take your relationship a step further.You decide to get pregnant.Thats the easy part.The most stressful period of a couples life is when they are trying to concieve.Even the healthiest of couples can have trouble falling pregnant and need to be patient.But its hard to remain patient.We expect our bodies to work as we want them to.If you are lucky and belong to the class of 70 % women,who have regular menstrual cycles,your work is easy.Monitor your cycle for the first few months,get an ovulation predictor kit or study the pattern of your body,have intercourse on the right days,and with luck,you will soon be pregnant.
    But,if you belong to the 30% women who have irregular cycles then the chances of your getting pregnant reduce and the levels of stress increases.The increased stress in turn wrecks havoc in the woman’s body,messing up her cycle and in turn increasing the stress levels again.Its a vicious cycle. But you have to remember as irregular as your cycles are,there is a pattern to the madness.
    When you decide to try to get pregnant,the first step to follow should be observing your cycle.So,may be you don’t get your period every month,but get it every other month-Try to figure out a pattern.Its is quite possible that you have a longer cycle than normal and that is not necessarily a bad thing. Once you start tracking your dates,you will overcome the uncertainity and be better aware of your body.It may take more than 2-3 months to understand your cycles.
    Next step is to determine if you are ovulating or not.Its probably a good idea to consult a doctor for this one.In fact,it is recommended that you go for a pre-pregnancy check up,before you start trying to get pregnant.These checkups can open the doors to a lot of information.Make sure you ask your doctor,all the doubts,that you may have.At the same time,remember to not be bogged down by the big medical terms.
    If it turns out that you have irregular cycles because you have trouble ovulating,your doctor should be able to suggest a treatment for that.Most gynaecologist,these days believe that losing 5% of the body weight can bring on ovulation,without any prescription medication in about 90% women.If that doesn’t work then,there are ways to induce ovulation.
    Alternatively,it helps immensely to be in sync with your body.It is a very good idea to take sometime to know your body,before jumping into any kind of treatment.Making notes about your body,everyday,can help you establish a pattern and thus understand your body and cycles better.Meditation and yoga are very beneficial too.
    Be patient and be open to alternative treatments too.And lastly,if you think,you need medical or professional help,don’t hesitate to ask for it.
    Disclaimer-This is just information,that I have gathered from the internet,books,and other sources and is in no way,meant to replace medical or professional care.
    I will be writing more on this and similar topics..in the meantime,if you want to take it offline,email me..
    Ciao,my lovelies,more later.

  • Conversations from Aadyaland


    Overheard in Aadyaland
    Imagine a pint-sized person,saying “Hey! stop it!” to you.Trust me its hillarious.The pint-sized terror,who rules Aadyaland,tells us,very firmly,”Hey stop it”-

    when we are tickling her.
    “Hey mom,be careful,dont bump into me” -when we are walking in the park
    “Hey dad,don’t talk to my FAMILY! -when dad and mom are talking. Family??
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    “Mom,I want XYZ”. on being asked,why she wants it..the answer is clear-
    “Because”,a girl of few words she is.So,naturally I say no-because,because isnt good enough!So,she promptly goes and take XYZ..By now I am fuming..
    “Why did you take that?” I yell..She just looks at me,calmly and says..
    “Mom,actually..I need it!” What am I supposed to answer then??
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    “Mommm?”..
    “Yes Princess”
    “No,I am not your Princess..I am Tuku Masi’s Princess”,she frowns..and continues in the same beat..”Actually,I am your betu Shonu..and I am papa’s baby”.
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    DH asked Aadi,today,”Where is my baby?”
    She turns his back towards him..and says,”here’s your ulta baby!!” [Ulta= upside down or opposite in hindi]..The only time we have used the word ulta is,when

    she wearing her shoes on the wrong foot or her clothes inside out!
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    I was on the phone with my grandma,Aaji.Aadi heard me and said,”I want to talk to Aaji”..the first thing she said to Aaji,”aaji,kaay Kartey?” without

    prompting..Its the first thing I say to her..”hi Aaji,kaay kartey?” hehe..and then she went on to tell Aaji about her day..about how she colored and painted..and

    then,”Aaji,don’t worry,I will go outside and paint..Not inside the house! you get a gift for me..oh wait,Upsy-daisy wants to talk to you,Aaji..Achchaaaaaaa she is

    saying..Aaji you get a gift for me also”.
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    Friend S was playing with Aadi..Aadi was pretending that Friend S is her baby.
    Aadi-“Come her baby..come on munnu shonu let Mumma comb your hair.”
    Me- Pouting..”Ohh I thought,I was your Munnu Shonu”
    Aadi-*without missing a beat,”Achcha achcha,dont be sad,dono mere munnu shonu hai!” [both of you are my babies]
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    This one has me baffled..Friend R is pregnant..and they visited last weekend.She was lying down and Aadi was jumping on the bed..My heart was in my mouth.I told her sternly to stop jumping,she could hurt aunty R. She got upset and was sulking.So,I held her close and told her,AuntyR had a baby in her tummy and if she fell on auntyR,then baby will get hurt.She understood.Then,she sat down next to R and started talking to her tummy,telling the baby,don’t worry,I will not hurt you..I will share my toys with you.I will be your Didi..Friend R asked her,is the baby a boy or a girl?She said boy.R told her,ohh I wish it was a girl.Here’s what Aadi did then..She looked up and said,Excuse me Jai Jai bappa,Aunty R wants a girl..so ek sec..she paused to raise Friend R’s tee and pulled out imaginary baby and raised her hand to the ceiling..here..jai jai bappa,take this boy and give a girl.Then,she tucked in the girl in R’s tummy and pulled her t-shirt down!
    All this happened so fast.I was still trying to think,what I feel about it.It is so heartbreakingly sweet on one hand..and on the other,it is so intense.It makes me want to reach out to her and hold her close..and put us both in a time warp!

    Ohh its raining babies in our world..friends,cousins announcing pregnancies and deliveries..So,how can the little diva not have a say?She tucks in her little Teddy inside her T-shirt and tells us,”Look I have a baby in my tummy..” I have tried explaining to her,that she cant have a baby in her tummy..only mommies can..but..she still does it..this has been on since monday-we met Friend R on Sunday..Hopefully if we ignore it,she will stop doing it.What is the right way to deal with this?Any ideas,anyone?

  • Bathroom singers start early

    Everyday,at bath-time,Aadi loves to play with her soap,a translucent bar of Pears Soap.And she insists on singing songs..sometimes,we scream tunelessly,sometimes,she insists on singing the song correctly.
    One of her favorite songs is,the Meri Duniya song from Hey Baby..And we sing the chorus bit..”Oooo..oooo ” over and over till one of us doesn’t start laughing.
    And another favorite song is-Pear Soap Jingle..”Dum da rum dum-dum..”it starts..today,at bath-time,this was her song of choice.I started singing and she said,”No I will sing” I said OK..this usually means,she prompts me to say my lines..she started “dumdadummdumm..Mumma you say now..”I said,Dumdarumdumdum..Babar ka beta?”
    “Howru”,pat came the answer in highly accented english!
    “No no baby..its Humayun”I told her..”haan Mom..Howru”
    And Humayun ka? Atbar..ok atleast thats close!
    I tried to get her to say it correctly,but she changed tracks.
    The first time,I noticed Aadi singing,I was shocked and surprised..I mean,I didn’t expect the bathroom singing to start soo soon..But,it is cute,beyond doubt!

  • Of New places and New Friends-Guest Post

    Its time for the next guest post.This one’s written by the Passionate Goof,known to most of us as the Goofy Mumma.
    I was in India,when Aneela told me that another blogger is moving to Melbourne.Naturally I was thrilled and curious.GM got in touch and we exchanged emails and somehow there was no awkward pauses when we spoke.I remember being put at ease,instantly by her sweet tinkling voice..and I knew that the friendship,that I hoped for,when I first heard of her move,was going to bloom..:)We spoke a couple times,while in India and meeting up was the next step…Now,I will let GM tell you the rest…
    Here’s presenting,the Goofy Mumma-

    “Learning to live in a new place, can be a breeze if you have the right friends around you, said the great GM. 😉 After having moved toSharjah , where I knew absolutely no one, it took me ages to get a hang of the place, its workings, my likings and more. But Melbourne has been a different story from day one. From the moment I announced the move on my blog, the sweetest of people living here, dropped in mails, offering help and advice, and I am just putting it lightly, when I say I questioned them endlessly with all my queries.

    Surprisingly enough, Trishna happened to be in Bombay at the same time, while I was there during my transition. She offered me so much information and help, that this tiny brain of mine could neither hold, nor process all of it, I think. She guided me on how to go about the BB’s vaccinations, evaluations, kinder and more. And then we talked some more, about blogs, bloggers we both read, our lives, and the people in it. Somehow the bond formed right then. Having spoken to her just a few times before, did not stop me from calling her up, and go ranting when I really needed to vent, and, she just so sweetly and patiently heard me out. I think I knew then, I had already found a friend in my new home-to-be.

    Once I got here, the BB’s birthday was approaching, and as if taking it for granted, I invited Trish and family over, they came, and that is how we first met. And may I say, at the risk of being flung footwear at, I was smitten byAadi , and fell in love with her, more than Trish. She is such a sweet little girl, full of smiles, witty, sweet talk, and just such a loving little girl. I absolutely love that one. Trish, I noticed second, and liked just as much. Though this meeting was not really one, where we were sitting and chatting away to glory, having a heart to heart, but this was where we met. The next time was when we met up in the City, walked around, ate, chatted, and surprisingly for people just getting to know each other, found too many common things connecting us. From our spiritual ideas to our health concerns, there was just so much we had in common, besidesofcourse the very obvious, kids of almost the same age. And it is amazing how calm, and chilled out she remains even when under pressure, is the image I came back with from that meeting.

    But, honestly I had the most fun over dinner at Trishna’s beautiful home, and not just because of the drool worthy food ofcourse. It was such an easy-to-be-in home. They are just such a friendly and informal bunch of people, its just so easy to be with them. The BB and Aadi hit it off like a house on fire, playing, laughing, screaming. Aadi, the lovely baby, started treating the BB like her pretend baby, and actually fed him with her own hands, and then wiped his face with her tissues. My boy completely enjoyed the attention ofcourse. Trish and I had loads to talk about, and did, while the husbands seemed to have hit it off well with each other too. It is such fun to find like-minded people who are just so so easy to be with. I just loved that evening spent at their home, and if there is one moment of the evening, that is forever etched in my mind, it was when we were leaving, and Aadi said, “BB, my friend. He should not go”, and she burst into tears. The sweet, loving little girl, so precious. God bless you my darling.

    Its so wonderful knowing that I have a friend just a phone call away, who is always there, and who would not need too much explanation to understand me, nor do I fear being judged. And who is plain and simple honest. All this compounds, especially when in a new place, where I know very few people. Trish, thanks for being my sweet sweet friend.”

    Thanks for writing this post,GM..It means a lot to me..here’s to a new friendship..which doesn’t seem so new anymore.5 months back,I didn’t know you or your blog..now,you are my feel-good call and the blog,is my morning coffee break!

    oh and to read the first guest post by Aneela,go Here