This morning I was talking to my dad.He is so worried about my sister getting married.Typical dads. He kept telling me that I should talk to her, ask her if she likes someone or if he should start looking for a “suitable boy”. He said he also wanted to talk to DH about it and discuss what all needs to be done . I was suddenly reminded of the time when DH met my dad the first time.We had been seeing each other for about 6-7 months then. And DH had been asking me to marry him almost everyday.I dared him.. to ask my dad for my hand if he was really serious. And he did!
After every date,he used to come to drop me .He would drop me a little away from home and leave. But that day,he insisted on dropping me all the way home.I thought he meant – the colony gate. But no,he meant all the way home!!! So, he came to drop me.I said Bye at the door.. he rang the bell!Dad opened the door.I panicked!! He coolly introduced himself and asked my dad if he could come in. Asked dad if he could talk to him…I was staring at him with my mouth wide open. Dad told me to go and “make tea”..I want to talk to him! “But papa”… “Go!!!” Gulp!I left. They spoke..I don’t know what.I guess DH told him about his job, future plans,family and of course asked him if he could marry his daughter!!!
Dad said sure if your parents are OK with it,I will support you both. But,I will not willingly let my daughter marry into a family where she is not welcome! That’s it..Then the talk was over. Tea was ready.. we all sat down and had tea like he was a casual friend of mine. No one looking at the scene from outside would have guessed that this guy had just asked my dad for my hand in marriage!!Two cool guys sitting comfortably, while a girl squirms nervously!
A few months later, DH changed jobs, got a better job. He called up and told my dad that he had spoken to his parents and if my dad wanted he could talk to them. My dad called his father ,who refused to talk-point blank!! in his words-” You take care of your daughter ,I will take care of my son”.And he hung up!!! That’s where DH lost some points. My dad was sure then.. that he is taking me for a ride . He started looking for a suitable boy! He told me-“I met the guy of your choice and see what happened.. Now will you meet someone that I like?I don’t want you wasting your life if S and his family are not ready.” So,I went to meet his “boy”.DH was so tensed..My cell phone was on silent mode. By the time the meeting was over and I checked my cell phone, there were at least 20 missed calls!! The moment I picked up his next call, he barked into my ear-“Did you like him?” hahhaha.. Of course I didn’t. DH met my dad once again in an attempt to pacify him.. but he was still not fully convinced. It took another 6 months and several ultimatums( If I don’t marry her, I wont marry at all) and intervention from so many people to convince DH’s parents. They are still not exactly happy.. but DH has slowly and steadily climbed to the position of “best match for my little girl”.
I may still be just the-girl-who-stole-our- son , the daughter-in-law.. but he has definitely moved on from the son-in-law to the son!He is now the son,my dad never had. Even the smallest of decisions, when my dad used to earlier consult me n sis, now he includes DH too. In fact,I am a wee bit Jealous when I say this that more often than not, his advice is the one most sought.Even when my sister has something important to discuss( new job, new cell phone, new computer), she calls up and says.. Di, give the phone to Jeeju! LOL!
When I call up my aunt or grandmother, they are more concerned about how he is doing and if I am taking care of him( hello… I am the daughter)…Ohh well,he is a sweetie and he deserves it!
And today when my dad spoke about my sister’s marriage and how he wanted to discuss the whole deal with DH,I literally had tears in my eyes. We have come so far, he has made a distinct place in my family.
Whether I gained a new family or not is still debatable..But He has surely got himself a brand new family.. a family that’s absolutely crazy about him.
Here’s what they have to say for you-
“Beta,I am very proud of you! You deserve all the success and all the happiness.God Bless you!”
“Jeeju,You Rock!”
P.S.- Dad is not very net savvy and sis is too busy with her new job.. so I had to call them up and ask them to say something for DH,so that I could put it in this post!

DH is very camera-shy..or should I say camera unfriendly..Yes I think that would be the right word.. He didn’t smile in a single picture on our engagement day.Not a single one.There I was grinning ear-to-ear and next to me was this guy straight-faced! I had to grin and bear all the comments about how he was sad about losing his independence..on Independence Day!We got engaged on August 15th!

His excuse- ” Your smile is enough for both of us”.I almost bullied him into smiling for our wedding pictures-“If you don’t smile in the wedding pictures,I will never smile at you!”The sweetie that he is , he indulged me and I got fabulous wedding pictures!

But the threat lasted only for those two days – the Wedding Day and the Reception night.Then again, poker faced pictures!

I had to keep prompting him to smile..everytime we got our snap clicked..and even then he would forget to smile!And then…

Along came Aadya.. and all that changed instantly..He was holding Aadya and the nurse clicked our snap,our first snap as a family… DH smiled without being prompted.Hehehe Its like he has a beautiful reason to smile…And the smiles continue!!I leave you with a precious picture of my precious ones!

Here’s a list of things DH is passionate about-
DH is the biggest sports buff I know! He is crazy about cricket and formula 1 to extent of being a Fanatic!His madness is annoying sometimes, and cute at other times. He sets the alarm to wake up at ungodly hours to watch the formula1 races being telecast all over the world.Same goes for the cricket matches.Cricinfo.com is one the most hit site on his laptop and our desktop.He logs on there religiously!And then after watching the race or the match, his mood changes depending on the result of the event. He loves having discussions about the particular event. And since I am not much of a contributor to the debate, he excitedly shares his knowledge with me..whether I want to know or not!!Showing disinterest leads to sulking and pouting.. And the man does know how to tug at my heart strings!
Another passion was the X-Box.DH had promised himself that when he lands his dream job,he’ll buy one for himself. And he did..And until 2 days back it was his proud possession.It was the first gift he treated himself to. 2 days back he upgraded it to a new PS3.. but if I know him well, the X-Box is still special.Every time we move(and we move a lot), whether he helped me with packing or not was important.. what was important was that the X-Box be packed with special care.
Work- Need I say more? My post about his hospital trip says it all.
History- He is the biggest,most intense history buff ever!! He could have easily been a historian.He knows all the dates, details of all the wars and battles, profile of each of the Roman and Greek warriors and many more..I don’t always pay attention when he starts telling me these stories..History was never my strong subject. When I was pregnant,he insisted I listen to all this.. so that his baby gets the information.When I didn’t comply,he would just get me my book, prop up my feet comfortably,and go on to whisper long lectures to my belly.
Aadya- This is without a doubt his biggest passion. He will go to any extent to keep her from crying. I remember initially when we had latching issues,Aadya would start crying every time I tried to nurse her.. and DH would get so mad – How dare I make her cry..here his baby was crying her heart out and I was experimenting with latching positions..LOL! Now I can laugh about it,then I was ready to strangle him.. but I am sure had it come to that.. he would have strangled me first! 🙂 He is a sweetie!All it takes is two failed attempts to pacify his Princess for this big confident Man to feel lost and uncomfortable in his skin!
And Last but not the least- Yours Truly… (knock on the wood) He is still the same guy who proposed marriage before seeing me. Sure he’s changed as a person, matured with the years.. but I think his love has grown ten-folds(knock on the wood,again). And if its true that one partner loves the other a tad bit more,I can confidently say, he is the one in our relationship!I still get my countless phone calls & I-Love-Yous every single day..

I Love You,Hubby Dear!

8 more days to go!

How I met DH…..Wish It was a simple case of girl meets boy..
In this case, Girl chats with boy.. actually with boy’s friend.Boy is lurking behind the desk!! Friend makes one wrong move.. boy slips in with all the charms turned on!HAhahaha..I think I should stop before you all start thinking of DH as a girl snatcher. Which he is NOT!
Here’s what happened- I had just discovered the joy of net-surfing. My best friend had introduced me to online chat rooms. She had made some great friends online.I wished to do the same. So,I logged on and made some friends over the next few days. After a few days, started chatting with a couple of them on MSN or Yahoo Messengers.And among these was DH’s friend and colleague,we’ll call him A..We would chat on MSN… stupid chats.. he gave me some cock and bull story about him being in Delhi and blah blah.. And me- all innocence gave him all my true details.Then there was DH,hanging out with him..DH took pity on me and asked A to come clean…which he did..In the meantime,A asked me if I would meet him..we had spoken over the phone..I said sure..I am a very friendly person and was always happy to meet new people.We met,he probably expected the bearer of a sexy voice to be a bombshell.. and so was obviously disappointed to see plain old tomboyish me!The creep that he was just disappeared after that.I was naturally concerned.. I am still thinking that he is busy or sick , so not in touch..So,I called him up at his work place..As luck would have it,DH picked up the phone.And he loved the coy,sweet voice asking for A. He asked A who it was.. and A told him the whole story of his disappointment.DH asked to be introduced..A discouraged him..but he persisted and IM-ed me a couple of months later and introduced himself as A’s friend.After A’s disappearing act,I was obviously wary of his friends, but 1 chat session with this guy was enough to change my mind.The gentleman that he is avoided any discussions about A.(I heard the story later,when we had been going steady for over a year).But he was more interested in telephonic conversations than chats.He told me later..that he heard bells the first time he heard my voice.
so he kept insisting I call…which I did eventually and we hit it off immediately. We were practically finishing off each other’s sentences by the second call,
which by the way lasted for almost 2 hours-what we spoke about I cannot remember.. no matter how hard I try.Few weeks later on Valentine’s day,I used the word darling..in the most innocent sort of way.. and that sealed the deal!
The rest as they say is History!He asked me to marry him sometime between valentine’s day and my birthday(19th February)And that was before we had met or seen each other.LOL!! So, we met – spend the entire day together.My sister and best friend accompanied me to save me in case the date goes bad.
Fortunately,it never came to that.The meany that I am totally forgot about them, while I enjoyed the company of this gorgeous guy.I am told -when my sister first saw him,she asked my friend who the cutie was
and if I would set them up.. only to be informed by my friend that he was my date and from the looks of it.. didn’t seem like I would let go of this one.
Boy!! Was she right !!The only time I dared to do something out of character ,I got lucky..This one is a keeper.
Needless to say, we got married..Its been 3 and a half years now,since we got married and 6 and half years since that first date.. but life is always exciting with this wonderful man..I am just so happy to have him in my life..
Love you darling !